What if You Knew You Couldn’t Fail?

As much as I wish I could say I’m strong and brave, the truth is I’m very cautious, and even fearful. I am an excellent worrier. I worry about the future, the present and the past. I worry about things that I cannot control. I worry about things that happened years ago. Even though I know this is counterproductive, I can’t help it. It’s just the way I am.

So I was intrigued by this question that hit my inbox recently: “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

My first thought was, “Everything I’m afraid to try!” Then I decided to narrow it down a bit. FLY! I’d totally jump off of something really high, and fly. Without a plane. Just fly like a bird. That’s what I’d do if I knew I couldn’t fail.

What about you? (Leave your ideas in the comments. I’m curious.)

In the meantime, I received this book to review, and I’m excited to read it. It’s called, “What would you do if you knew you could not fail? (How to transform fear into courage).” Written by Nina Lesowitz and Mary Beth Sammons, it is filled with inspiring stories of how real people have overcome fear, trials, and even failures, with courage and resilience.

Courage Is…
Courage Is… (Photo credit: Celestine Chua)

The personal stories are augmented with quotes, expert advice, and suggested actions you can take to overcome fear and be more courageous in your own circumstances. For example:

  • Ten things to do when you are so scared that you question your ability to keep going.
  • Using a journal to deal with fears.
  • Leaving old wounds behind so you can move forward.

And I love the quotes in the book! They are inspiring and worth reading, remembering and sharing. Like this one:

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, I’ll try again tomorrow. (Mary Anne Radmacher)

If you’d like to have a copy of this book, leave a comment on this post and I’ll choose a lucky winner. Thanks for reading. Have a courageous day!

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Three Tips for Happiness

Type "S"uperwoman Book Cover
Type “S”uperwoman Book Cover

You can turn March Madness into March Happiness! Whether or not you’re a fan of the NCAA Basketball Tournament (aka “March Madness), March is a great month to spend some time feeling happy. And if you’re not feeling very happy right now, maybe try some new things to improve life and create more happiness tomorrow.

Author Jaime Kulaga, Ph.D., LMHC has written a book to help women evaluate their lives and find ways to be happier. The book is, “Type ‘S’uperWoman – Finding the Work-Life Balance: A Self-Searching Book for Women.” Here are three ways to increase happiness this month.

Smile and Wave Goodbye to the Toxic People: Waving goodbye has never made you smile so big. In a world where everyone faces uncontrollable stressors and negativity every day (no matter how happy of a person you are), you must get rid of the things and people that are only going to bring you further down. Rid yourself of the toxic people in your life, the haters and the hurters. Take control of your happiness by not allowing others to steer your emotions up and down, or steal them altogether. If you can’t completely rid yourself of the negative people, you can definitely set boundaries to minimize your interactions with them. Saying goodbye means saying hello to happiness.

Take Time to Decide: The best way to be unhappy is to go around making promises or commitments you can’t live up to or, if you do live up to them, you despise every moment of it. You get one life, so make it a happy one. Don’t over commit to someone else and then under commit to yourself. Your happiness is just as important as everyone else’s, and don’t think otherwise.

When you make an impulsive decision, it is typically based on intense emotions and made with little thought. In most cases, quick decisions are not only poor decisions, they also reduce your control and even ruin your credibility.

To create happiness, make a habit of taking time when making both large and small decisions. Retreat, Rethink, React are your new decision-making steps, in that order.

Forgive: When you hold grudges, possess anger or find yourself always looking backward, it is hard to move forward. The great thing about forgiveness is you don’t have to feel it, you just do it. And you are doing it for you, not the other person. If you are angry with someone, your attention and energy is given to them, not you. You can’t control your past, and that can be upsetting sometimes. But you can control your future, and you can drive right up to happiness.

What better time to start new happiness habits than right now? It’s a new month and springtime is just around the corner! I like to think every woman has a “Superwoman” inside. I just have to figure out how to let mine out. Who’s with me?

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